Gender disparities lead to more than just a pay gap. All groups of men—gay, bisexual and heterosexual—orgasm more than all groups of women, a study from the Kinsey Institute shows. This pleasure imbalance is widespread among those in both casual hook ups and in relationships.
How often you reach the big O may seem trivial, but research shows it’s not. Sexual pleasure and satisfaction have real impacts on our overall health and wellbeing. The orgasm gap is also a symptom of a larger problem, which is that we don’t talk enough about female pleasure.
In an op-ed in The Guardian today, WCG’s executive director Shannon Bledsoe writes “female pleasure remains taboo and poorly understood,” while male sexuality and male fantasies are routinely normalized and celebrated:
“Women . . . appear mostly as the object in these fantasies rather than as subjects. In middle school sex ed classes, drawings of female anatomy often don’t even include the clitoris, as if women’s reproductive function is somehow separate from their pleasure.”
This lack of information and support inspired WCG to partner with Jessica Biel to launch The Tryst Network. Through funny videos, openness and connecting vital sex positive resources, Tryst hopes to reduce shame and empower women and their partners. The best way to shift attitudes, says Bledsoe, is to start a real conversation:
“Let’s talk about what women’s sexual anatomy really looks like, so that we can normalize differences, reduce body shame and improve self-care. We should encourage self-exploration at an early age so that women (and men) learn what feels good to them. Knowing our own bodies can promote our own health and well-being, and empower our relationships.”
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